I got called a d*ckhead tonight

Riding home through peak hour traffic today, I was called a d*ckhead by another cyclist.

For sure, I was going through a red light - into an intersection that was completely gridlocked. I slowed down rather unexpectedly during this manoeuvre, as a car I was expecting to move forward didn't.

Evidently in so doing I got in the way of another cyclist coming through on green, who shot straight through in a left-turn only lane before mounting the footpath at some speed.

Rather hilariously, a bit later on he pulled out in front of me without looking. I was on the footpath too by this time.

Red lights, turning lanes, footpaths, going to fast, not looking. Hardly exemplary behaviour from either of us, really. But on the other hand fairly normal Friday peak hour riding,

I just thought his comment, delivered with some vitriol, was a but unnecessary. We're all in this together. Wouldn't a more friendly 'look out, mate!' have been better?

Let's all be pleasant to each other, and perhaps tolerant of each others mistakes.

Views: 42

Comment by Jonathan on July 4, 2009 at 12:12am
Oddly enough, most people don't see cyclists as a community. Most other cyclists are just people on bikes.
Comment by Freewheelin' Franklin on July 4, 2009 at 10:51am
Angry bike riders are angry too

:)

everyone likes to feel self righteous
Comment by Melissa on July 4, 2009 at 2:16pm
I think traffic just brings out the absolute worst in people.
I agree with you... how hard is it REALLY to just speak to people nicely? Maybe in another situation he might have been ok, but I think everyone just gets irritable in traffic and they do stupid things...
Comment by Paul S on July 6, 2009 at 11:00am
Being abused by strangers seems to go with the territory for bicycle riders. When it happens to me I spend the next while thinking very angry and negative thoughts. Does anyone have a great way to avoid picking up other peoples negative crap?
Comment by Terry on July 6, 2009 at 6:00pm
Telling abusive wankers to "have a nice day" tends to stop me from getting to upset about most situations.Just knowing that I can use politness to iritate them is satisfying.
Comment by Dan on July 6, 2009 at 7:16pm
I agree with Terry. If I get into conversation with someone because of an incident, I always call them 'Sir' or 'Madam', and big them farewell with a 'you take care now, and have a great day'.
I feel good because I didn't stoop to their level, and, like Terry, the thought that they are going to be fuming for the next 20 minutes helps me relax - if they are going to carry it around with them, I don't need to, and can get on with enjoying my ride!

I do try and review what happened in my mind, however, with a genuine degree of honesty about how I could have prevented the incident from happening. If I did something ill-advised, I think about not doing it again. if it was no fault of mine, I still think about if there is something else I could have done to prevent it happening. It's rare that there is nothing to learn from such incidents.
Comment by Al on July 11, 2009 at 6:07pm
In response to Paul S comments, I would recommend in the first instance take the long route home or do some overtime when the peak hour is less, you will notice the difference. Also be sure to cycle a little further so as
you do not bring that frustration home. This is the difference between a motorist and cyclist, ie you have choices.
Choose life. It will then means you do not spend that money on a six pack of beer to get rid of the frustration.
Comment by wornsaddle on July 14, 2009 at 7:25pm
mmm... a six pack.

Comment

You need to be a member of Sydney Cyclist to add comments!

Join Sydney Cyclist

© 2019   Created by DamianM.   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service